April 1, 2013
Although I have another site www.canditaylorjeter.com I still must say that this site holds my heart. This site chronicles my ups and downs with single parenting, going to school, gaining and losing love. I will always come to this site to vent, share, update and share love. I have not (more…)
November 20, 2012
It was so hard to watch Keyshia Cole meltdown on the photo
shoot and mess up the vibe she and Boobie Gibson. She is not a stylist or a barber, yet she
messes up his hair and gets offended when he reacts. Then when he tries to do the shoot she puts
him down and says he is not professional .
Then she blames him for reacting to her negative energy and trying to
get it back on track. When he goes back
on the set without her, he does a fabulous job with out her while she talks to
herself about accepting love and not being mean to him.
Then she admits that it’s hard having someone who really
loves you. It’s clear that she is uncomfortable with love and interdependence.
He has had the example, but she has not and you can tell that she is NOT
comfortable with the give and take of relationships.
She needs to control her moods and really get help. I don’t
want to see her lose out on love, because she is afraid of it. Her deep sadness
is real to her and she is tricking herself into thinking that he is lashing out
at her when he is clearly not.
June 17, 2012
Mothers are often raved about. However, I just want to let men know how important dads are. As much as my mother has fussed, worried and sacrificed for me, I must say that my fondest memories are from the men in my life. My dad and my granddads. (more…)
May 13, 2012
Motherhood: The Warrior Queen Mother
When I hear people describe their mothers they often describe them with words like love, tenderness, longsuffering, kind, patient and gentle. However, rarely is she described as the Warrior Queen. The moment I birthed my children the Warrior Queen in me was born. For the first time in my life I knew I could literally kill anything that threatened to harm my children. Slaying dragons, foes and spirits that attempted to overtake them.
Until I became a mother, I never realized underneath the tender hand of my own mother was the element of fire that would consume the greatest of contenders, move mountains, and could shut the mouths of lions with her bare hands.
A Warrior Queen Mother keeps this ability hidden in the shadows of her loving eyes, gentle touch, warm hugs and encouraging words. If you really think about it, it’s a scary idea to know that such fierceness lies just beneath the surface. Always ready to defend her young.
Contrary to popular belief, when a Woman births children she goes from feminine to masculine. She no longer thinks about having things done for her, but now she is entranced with the masculine energy of doing.
It is not until she feels the masculine hand of her man on her shoulders reminding her that she is woman and that she needs to relax and just BE(feminine). This is why the best thing a man can do for his children is to love their mother. Protect her and do for her.
A good man knows he has the power to love and soothe the beast in her that is biologically wired within her to protect her young. A good man knows that if she stays in this state too long that it will send her to an early grave and cause her to suppress her need to receive.
A Warrior Queen Mother who forgets how to receive becomes a wilted flower who only knows how to fight and defend and is willing to go down in the name of LOVE, yet never relearning how to accept LOVE.
If you are a Warrior Queen Mother make a declaration that you will TODAY learn to receive LOVE from all sources. Let the man in your life touch you without feeling like you have to DO anything in return. Let the love and good deeds of other wash over you and cleanse you from the spirit of aggression. Don’t pick anyone up, don’t offer to fix someone’s problem, don’t offer your money, time and energy to anything that is taking away from you.
May 11, 2012
Hello Beautiful! Don’t know if you followed my “What To Do While Waiting” blog series or not, but it was certainly helpful for me to wait during one of my many transitions. Now the time has returned for me to DO! Time to complete and tie up (more…)
May 4, 2012
This is a must watch. Helen Fisher’s TED talk will enlighten you on a few things including why we can feel love for two men at once. And, you must stick around until the end for her opinion on anti-depressants. (more…)
January 19, 2012
Gratitude to Mom and Dad:
I am so thankful for my family! As I reflect on what each member has played in my life I am so full of joy and peace, because I know that God has placed me in a perfect place to be born therefore I am in a perfect place to live.
I would like to start with my father. What my dad has given me is the knowledge of a man. What I mean by that is he has taught me how to respect what a man doesn’t say. Many women constantly try to get men to open up and talk, because talking doesn’t take much thinking and going within self to feel the man. However, when a man does not talk that is not an opportunity to make up things in your mind about what he may be thinking, but it is an opportunity to use your feminine intuition to feel him, to learn him and to listen with heart, rather than talk. My dad taught me to be tough and feminine, to trust, yet watch, to learn self appreciation and to take care of self, yet accept being taken care of. My dad has always been there to support me. In many ways he still supports me LOL! However, there have been many times when his masculine energy would take over and he would say things that would make the average girl cry. However, I would openly let him know how I felt when he said hurtful things and confronting him was the best exercise I had in learning how to communicate with a man who’d hurt my feelings. Trust me he didn’t cut any slack and I had to hold my own. This taught me that men are not going to always say things to make you feel good, but that doesn’t mean they don’t love you. Dig deep and don’t be afraid to go there when things get hot under the collar. Most of all MOVE ON!
The gift my dad has given me: Making me ultra comfortable with men, knowing how to communicate without nagging, being able to cry, yet stand up and state my feelings clearly in a way that a man can hear me. Thanks dad!
My MOM! There are really no words that can explain what my mom has and is still teaching me. I know this may sound weird, but I’m weird so here it goes….My mom was the best teacher about
January 9, 2012
Dear God, Hurry up and give me PATIENCE. Humph! In my series of “What To Do While Waiting” I was really attempting to exercise patience. Patience has never been my strong point. Especially the kind of patience required after you have done all you (more…)
December 18, 2011
“As love grows within us it requires all to come face to face with risk and sacrifice. It is at this crucial point that even an ounce of fear could destroy it all.” Many think that it is quitting that causes failure. Many think it’s (more…)
October 5, 2011
Wow! It has been a longtime since I have posted. A lot has taken place and it is amazing how things effortlessly take place when we go with the flow of the universe. Many people have rules, expectations Ideas and LOTS of conditioning that drives them (more…)